How Parents Can Help Students with Writing

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Sarah came home from school dejected. In her hand was an essay she had written the week before. The teacher’s comments written in red on the paper said, “be more specific, run-on sentence, unclear, and weak conclusion.” Sarah spent hours working on her essay, and even with all of the comments, she still has no understanding of why it received such a low score. 

Countless adults have similar stories about their grade school experiences with writing. “My 5th grade teacher hated my writing,” or “My essays looked like they were bleeding with all the comments written in red.” These experiences have a lasting impression that affects most people into adulthood. Their attitudes about writing are often connected to their experiences in school. However, no matter the attitude, either positive or negative, many of our daily tasks require some form of writing, and more importantly, most jobs require writing, so it is imperative that students learn writing skills.

Parents can play a vital role in helping students improve their writing skills and their attitudes towards writing. Hopefully, you can begin this process at least three or four days before the paper is due. The dreaded last minute essay rarely receives the attention needed to write a solid high scoring paper.

The following offers several tips that parents can use to assist their children with their next writing assignment.

Understand the Assignment

Before the writing begins, it is necessary to understand what the teacher is asking of the students. Ask your child to read the directions, or the essay prompt to you. Is this a persuasive essay, a book report, a literary analysis? It doesn’t matter what type of essay because all good writing requires the same elements, but we’ll get to that later. What does matter is that the child understands what the teacher expects for this writing assignment.

Brainstorm Ideas

Once you have a clear understanding of the assignment, you can begin discussing possible ideas about how to approach the topic. Brainstorming is a necessary step before the actual writing begins. Try to get your child to express as many ideas as possible. You can add to the list, but the majority of ideas should come from your child. During brainstorming, there is never a bad idea. It is just a time to discuss all of the possibilities. You can do this in a discussion, or you can have your child jot down ideas in a list.

Narrow the Topic

After you have exhausted all of the possible topics for the essay, it is time to narrow it down to the one topic that will work best. Typically, the chosen topic is one where the child has some background or passion for the idea. It is always easier to write about something where you have knowledge and/or passion. So, help your child choose the topic that is most appealing. Narrow the topic if necessary. If the main topic is education, obviously, the topic is too big for an essay. Discuss with your child how you can narrow the topic on education to his favorite subject. If his favorite subject is science, then his paragraphs can be divided into the different aspects of science class that he most enjoys.

Thesis Statement

Your child has narrowed the topic, so now it is time to figure out the “roadmap” for the essay. The roadmap is a way to explain to readers in just one sentence what the essay will cover. For example, with the science essay, the thesis statement or roadmap could be: Science is my favorite class because of the experiments, new discoveries, and hands-on learning. The main paragraphs would cover those three sub topics. If you find it difficult to create sub topics then you may need to return to the brainstorming you created earlier. However, if it was easy to determine the subtopics, you can begin adding details.

Details and the Rough Draft

It is time to write the first draft of the essay. During this stage, many students struggle with adding details to their essays. They often assume the reader understands what they are thinking, so they often omit information that helps with understanding. Parents can help their children add details by asking questions. “What do you do during an experiment in science? What was your last experiment? Do you work with a partner or by yourself?” These questions help students understand they must add information to help the reader picture the scene. When the rough draft/first draft is complete, you should read over it and point out the positives. Be specific with your praise. “I liked how you described the tools needed to conduct the experiment.” You can also give some constructive feedback, “I think you could add some more description here.” At this stage in the writing process, it is important to spend more time praising the good parts, and less time critiquing the weak parts. You are trying to help the student have a positive relationship with writing, so you want this help session to be uplifting.

Final Copy

After the rough draft was discussed, it is time to do some final revisions before writing the final copy. At this stage, encourage your child to look for varied sentence structure, strong verbs, and good vocabulary. One good strategy is to have your child underline the first few words of each sentence. Are the sentences varied? Some sentences should follow the pattern of a subject followed by a verb, and other sentences should begin with a clause.  Once the changes are made and the final copy is written, you have one final step. It’s time for your child to read the essay out loud. This strategy helps the student hear how the writing flows, and you can listen for any confusion or awkwardness.

Remember, writing for many people is a difficult endeavor, yet it is a necessary life skill. Helping your child with writing will benefit him for the rest of his life. You don’t have to be an expert writer, you just need to support, encourage, and praise your child as he struggles through his next writing assignment. If you do this, he will develop the necessary writing skills as well as a positive attitude towards writing.

It’s Time for a Break

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How to Schedule Breaks and Some Fun During Study Time

Everyone knows the importance of studying. Everyone also knows how hard it is to concentrate when you’re tired and feeling overwhelmed or anxious. Studying does not have to be stressful or tiring if you know how to include breaks and a little bit of fun.

The best way to study is over several days. If you can organize your time so that you plan your study time way ahead of the test or exam, you can make studying last just twenty minutes each night. However, if you are a procrastinator or your teacher decided to give a test in just a few days, you will need to study in much longer chunks of time. So, how can you study for hours without losing your motivation and energy?

The tips below will help get you through your next study session.

Get Outside

If you hit the books hard and get through the first several chapters of notes, don’t forget to give yourself some free time. Every hour of studying should have a 10-to-15-minute break.

If you’ve been focused for the last 45 minutes, spend the next 15 minutes by stepping outside. The fresh air will give you renewed energy and your mind a break from staring at a book or notes.

Move

You can also spend some time moving around. Most likely you’ve been sitting at your desk or kitchen table and studying, so when it is time for a break, get up and move. The movement will get your blood flowing which will help with your energy levels. You probably won’t feel like moving, but it is the best thing you can do before you hit the books again. Whether you take a walk around the house or just go to another room, don’t sit down, just keep moving.

Fuel

Hydrate with water and fuel your body with a healthy snack. Studying is not the time for sugary drinks or salty foods. Get up from your desk and grab some water, baby carrots, sliced apples, or a handful of almonds to fuel your body. The water and snack also help you maintain your energy. Again, leave your study environment for a change of scenery. Make this a true break to let your mind wander as you feed your body.

Find Fun

Studying does not have to be boring. To add some fun to your studying, join a study group. If you can find friends who have a similar work ethic as yours, you can form a study group and ask each other questions. Oftentimes, your friends will uncover information that you didn’t have in your notes.

If you can’t find a study group, you can practice teaching the information to your younger siblings or stuffed animals. This strategy gives you the opportunity to view the information in a different way. Consider how you would explain your notes to someone else; it will force you to break it down into smaller chunks. You can even create visuals that will help you demonstrate your knowledge.

Rewards

Sometimes the possibility of a reward will help get you through the toughest parts of studying. Rewards can be simple. You can allow yourself to watch your favorite television show if you study for an allotted amount of time on a given number of days. Or, you can allow yourself time on social media after your study session. The bigger rewards may come after you receive your high score on the test or exam. You can tell yourself that if you receive an A (or whatever grade you’re trying to get), you will treat yourself to a night out with friends. The rewards should be fun and motivating, but only you know what that might be. 

For more information about study breaks: Khan Academy

Building Leadership in Teens

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Are leaders born or are they developed?

Many believe that some people are born with the ability to lead, and others believe that leaders develop skills over time that enable them to lead. It is true that some people are born with a personality type that makes it easier to lead, but the obvious answer is leaders develop their skills over time. Some may have the opportunity to practice certain skills more than others, so they appear to be born leaders. However, it is the exposure to specific skills and the chance to practice these skills in different situations that create strong leaders.

According to the Center for Creative Leadership,  all great leaders share the following characteristics: integrity, ability to delegate, communication, self-awareness, gratitude, competence, influence, empathy, courage, and respect. Additionally, more characteristics get added to this list by author Clinton McLemore in Inspiring Trust, Strategies for Effective Leadership, including: intellect, stability, emotional intelligence, motivation, flexibility, and assertiveness. How can anyone possibly possess all of these competencies? Yet, we have all encountered leaders who hold many, if not all, of these characteristics.

Consider leaders you encountered throughout your lifetime, a beloved teacher, coach, or boss. Most likely, you admired this leader and wanted to emulate what you saw.  You remember them for the important and meaningful role they played in your life. They connected with you on many levels and probably inspired you to be your best self. So, how did they become leaders who possess all of these skills? They weren’t born that way, nor did they one day decide to lead. They developed these traits throughout their childhood by witnessing strong leaders and then practicing the skills as they grew into adults. 

Why is it important to develop these characteristics?

When children acquire the characteristics related to leadership, they reap the benefits  throughout their life. The ability to make independent decisions, help others, and achieve goals are connected to leadership skills. Throughout middle school and high school, students with these competencies are more successful and possess a higher self-esteem. They tend to be happier, more confident, and more motivated. As adults, leadership skills assist with job satisfaction, promotion, community involvement, and overall well being. According to the Journal of Leadership Education, many universities now seek students with leadership experience, and employers are also looking for people with leadership skills.

What can parents do to help their children develop these skills so they can become great leaders?

First, children need to witness good leadership, and that begins with you. Children learn through example and parents are their very first and most influential example. Parenting style matters, and so does parents’ connections with others. Your parenting style should be authoritative where there are high expectations, yet you allow your kids to fail. You should be supportive and responsive to their needs while setting strict boundaries and consistently enforcing rules. Allow children to witness positive and honest interactions with friends, co-workers, and retail workers. When parents treat others with warmth and compassion, children learn to do the same. Children internalize these interactions and will emulate them throughout life.

Children will also internalize how you approach problems. They should witness you wrestle with conflicts so they will know how to approach issues. It is a natural tendency for children to imitate what they see, so they should observe their parents facing and coping with challenges. Parents do not need to pretend that life is perfect, nor do they need to shield their children from understanding that challenges are a part of life. If children witness their parents coping with problems honestly, with all the anxiety and stress, it demonstrates the realities of life. Facing the problem authentically rather than hiding it from children, demonstrates how problems are overcome. So, when children face a challenge, they have the confidence to confront it head on. They understand that coping with a problem is not the end of the world, but a part of everyday life. The skills needed to solve problems connect to the skills needed to lead.

When children witness their parents connecting with others, treating people with compassion, and dealing with conflicts in a responsible manner, they see leaders. They internalize these characteristics, and this helps to build their self-esteem. According to Bobi Seredich, in an article entitled, Why Self-esteem is Critical to Successful Leadership, she states, “High self-esteem is not created by receiving praise all the time or listening to motivational talks, but it is built in having connections with others and realizing that setbacks are opportunities to grow…” Those with high self-esteem are not threatened by others’ opinions or ideas, and they welcome diverse thinking. Having a high self-esteem works conjointly with building leadership skills.

More than ever, we need strong leaders who can problem solve, show compassion, and connect with others. Every individual has the potential to be a leader. Each child has strengths and weaknesses, but overall, leadership skills can be developed through exposure and practice. It begins with parents setting the examples and educators following suit.